Month: May 2011

still reading…

Kerry Shook’s  “Love At Last Sight”

today he told the story of Hosea and Gomer

Love at first sight says, ‘I’ll love you until….’ Until you turn forty. Until you become too much trouble. Until I feel differently.

Love at last sight says, ‘I’ll love you even when…’ Even when you’re sick. Even when helping you is difficult for me.  Even when your eyes grow dim and your skin sags. Even when you wrong me.

Can you say that about your key relationships? Can you say, ‘I’ll love you with a Hosea love, with the love of Christ Himself, even when…’?

relationships are messy…

i picked up Kerry Shook’s book “Love At Last Sight”. it’s a chapter a day for 30 days and it targets four “Arts” that we need to practice to deepen our relationships.  They are:

1. The Art of Being All There

2. The Art of Acting Intentionally

3. The Art of Risking Awkwardness

4. The Art of Letting Go

i’m on day 3 and this passage struck me today:

A Glorious Mess

You see, rich relationships are messy. They don’t line up in neat bullet points. The refuse to be boxed into a rigid schedule.  They can’t be filed for handy retrieval or condensed and expanded at will.

If you decide to invest in a heart-to-heart relationship, there will be times your eyes will sting with tears and your heart will feel like a vacuum-packed coffee bag.  There will be times you feel the excitement of a kid in a candy store, times when you ache with regret or really burst with pride.  But through it all, you will feel fully alive and fully loved.  Author T. D. Jakes expresses it beautifully:

If you are looking for someone to be your everything, don’t look around, look up! God is the only one who can be everything.  By expecting perfection from the flesh, you ask more out of someone else than what you can provide yourself.  To be married is to have a partner: someone who is not always there or always on target or always anything! On the other hand, should you ever get in trouble and you don’t know who to look to for help, you can count on your partner!  It is to have someone to curl up against when the world seems cold and life uncertain.  It is having someone who is as concerned as you are when your children are ill.  It is having a hand that keeps checking your forehead when you aren’t well.  To be married is to have someone’s shoulder to cry on as they lower your parent’s body into the ground.  It is wrapping wrinkled knees in warm blankets and giggling without teeth. To the person you marry, you are saying, ‘When my time comes to leave this world and the chill of eternity blows away my birthdays and my future stands still in the night; it’s your face I want to kiss good-bye.  It is your hand I want to squeeze as I slip from time to eternity.  As the curtain closes on all I have attempted to do and be; I want to look into your eyes and see that I mattered.  Not what I looked like.  Not what I did or how much money I made.  Not even how talented I was. I want to look into the teary eyes of someone who loved me and see; I mattered!’

That ought to resonate with anyone who has a heartbeat.  We all want to matter.  The art of being all there starts with the unselfish act of taking what we ourselves long for and realizing that others want the same thing from us.

wow, i want to matter and i want those that i love to know that they matter.  i want to be all there. that’s my goal.

the debtor’s ethic…

i don’t agree with everything i read, but this idea from John Piper is very fresh to me right now.

The effort to repay God, in the ordinary way we pay creditors, would nullify grace and turn it into a business transaction.  If we see acts of obedience as installment payments, we make grace into a mortgage…Let us not say that grace creates debts; let us say that grace pays debts.

So pumped to possibly hear this tonight

“Hate It Here”-Wilco

I try to stay busy
I do the dishes, I mow the lawn
I try to keep myself occupied
Even though I know you’re not coming home

I try to keep the house nice and neat
I make my bed I change the sheets
I even learned how to use the washing machine
But keeping things clean doesn’t change anything

What am I gonna do when I run out of shirts to fold?
What am I gonna do when I run out of lawn to mow?
What am I gonna do if you never come home?
Tell me, what am I gonna do?

I hate it
I hate it here
When you’re gone

I caught myself thinking
I caught myself thinking once again
Have to try to keep my mind out of this
Try not to pretend

I’ll check the phone
I’ll check the mail
I’ll check the phone again and I call your mom
She says you’re not there and I should take care

I hate it here
When you’re gone
I hate it
I hate it here
When you’re gone

I try to stay busy
I take out the trash, I sweep the floor
Try to keep myself occupied
Cause I know you don’t live here anymore

Daddy’s Prayer

i know i sing the praises of the Jesus Storybook Bible

this is the Lord’s Prayer from it.

Hello Daddy!

We want to know you.

And be close to you.

Please show us how.

Make everything in the world right again.

And in our hearts too.

Do what is best–just like you do in heaven.

And please do it down here, too.

Please give us everything we need today.

Forgive us for doing wrong, for hurting you.

Forgive us just as we forgive other people when they hurt us.

Rescue us!  We need you.

We don’t want to keep running away and hiding from you.

Keep us safe from our enemies.

You’re strong, God.

You can do whatever you want.

You are in charge.

Now and forever and for always!

We think you’re great!


Yes we do!

i love the simplicity and beauty of a prayer so many people have committed to memory, i love how the author equates God’s will to “do what is best”. sometimes, re-wording something helps us to see it fresh and new. i pray that when you think of the Lord’s prayer, that it is strong words for you, not just something you learned to say in the 6th grade.  that the words carry meaning, and weight and you believe them.

a song inspired by Psalm 108

Psalm-Chuck Harris-2011


my heart trusts You

i can sing with all my heart

the morning rises with my voice

every day is a new start

i sing thanks in every nation

all the people hear my song

it’s my desire to sing Your praises

i hope they all will sing along


Your love never fails

it’s higher than the heavens

You are faithful far beyond the clouds

be exalted….let Your glory shine

so with the earth we can Praise You Out Loud